Things not to say to a new mum

Sonny Jim, Katy Pearson, #whatkatydidUK

Newborn days: With my Sonny Jim

FRIENDS of ours have just had twin girls and seeing the pair of them, daughters in arms, and joy positively emanating out of photos, really took me back to Sonny Jim’s newborn days.

In some ways (clichéd as it sounds) it seems forever ago and yet I can’t believe that I have an almost two-year-old.

It got me thinking how it’s really easy to say the wrong thing to a new mum. When you’ve just had a baby, especially your first, the most insignificant observation can seem like a criticism. You’re pretty emotional, you’re SO tired and you’ve, quite frankly, NO idea what you’re doing. So, here’s my list of things you totally should not say to any new mamas in your life…

    • Is he a good baby?
      Well, he killed the cat last night… seriously what does this even mean? They all cry, poo, drink milk and sleep. Some more than others. There are no bad babies.
    • Are you feeding him?
      No, he’s living off air. What this is actually asking, is are you breastfeeding? And, honestly, why do you need to know? I desperately wanted to breastfeed Sonny Jim and he absolutely couldn’t do it. It was a bit rubbish.

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Why I miss my newborn – already

Newborn, Sonny Jim, Katy Pearson

My Sonny Jim when he was brand new!

So newborns are *hard* work. They’re tiny, fragile and as a new mum you have absolutely no idea just how exactly you’re supposed keep them alive!

But now my Sonny Jim is a whole six months old – and even though he is a complete delight at the moment – there are a few things I miss already about those newborn days…

  • The staying put. When he was new to the world you could put the little lad down – and he basically stayed where you put him. Now Sonny Jim is capable of getting himself into all sorts of pickles if you take your eyes off him for half a second. Wriggling his way under the cot? No problem. Pulling chunks of grass up and trying to eat them? Easy. And this is only going to get worse when he’s properly crawling and walking!
  • The cuddles. Sonny Jim and me still have tons of cuddles of course, but nowadays he is normally also trying to pull my hair, poke my eyes, and/or clamber over my shoulder at the same time. When he was newborn, he’d just curl up on my chest and snooze.

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Mummy lessons learnt – six months old

Sonny Jim, Katy Pearson

Six months old and super cute!

I truly, truly cannot believe my little guy is six months old. He’s a proper little character now and seems to be doing new things every single day.

And while Sonny Jim is busy discovering the world around him (toes are endlessly fascinating now as is his, um, winkle – I never knew the obsession started so young!!) I’m also learning new things all the time. Here are just a few of them…

  • I spend all day chatting away to Sonny Jim, sometimes he squeals in response, sometimes he falls asleep while I’m mid-sentence. This practice (great for teaching him to speak apparently) means I am now unable to stop the running commentary. Even when he is in his cot asleep, I find myself downstairs babbling away to myself. I fear I may do this in public too.

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Today I’m loving… my Funki Flamingo baby sling

So when you have a newborn in tow literally everything seems to get just a tad more challenging. Sleeping is obviously pretty much a thing of the past and even finding time to go to the loo is difficult.

So anything that makes the feeding-filled, cry-averting days easier is all good. And my Funki Flamingo baby sling tops the list of things that do that (after the husband of course!) Continue reading

Mummy lessons learnt – newborn to six weeks

Katy Pearson mother to Sonny

Sonny James

Okay. So I’m not going to go into the whole birth thing. Suffice to say it hurts. A lot. But you get an actual baby (hey Sonny!) at the end of it, so it’s all good.

But after six weeks of being a mama to a little boy I love more than life itself there are a few things I have discovered…

  • Poop talk is now your staple conversation topic. Poonamis will be discussed over dinner. You have actual pictures of poo on your phone. And you’re not afraid to group WhatsApp them. You will even leave voicemails about poo. Unashamedly.

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